How to Stop Spiralling by Rebecca Ray

‘The consequences of big trauma often show up in the smallest cracks of daily life. In how tightly we grip. In how quickly we snap. In how deeply we fear letting go.’

As children, we make choices that keep us safe in unsafe circumstances. As we grow, these learned responses start to limit us, inhibiting our ability to live the lives we crave. We may find ourselves:

* Self-numbing with the use of addictive substances
* Procrastinating to avoid the anxiety of a decision
* Losing our temper with those we love
* Chasing perfectionism at the cost of completion
* People pleasing to the point of exhaustion.

Drawing on clinical insight, extensive research and her own lived experience, Dr Rebecca Ray has developed a simple four-step mental exercise to help us recognise, reframe and reset these limiting behavioural spirals, whether at work, at home, or with loved ones, colleagues or strangers.

Honest, insightful, raw and compassionate, How to Stop Spiralling is your guide to saying goodbye to the habitual chaos of trauma and welcoming a bigger, more loving, more creative way to live your life.

About the Author: Dr Rebecca Ray is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author and sought-after speaker who helps big-picture thinkers rewrite their stories with self-trust, courage and clarity. With the heart of a storyteller and the precision of a clinician, Beck has spent more than two decades guiding thousands to break cycles of self-sabotage, return to their authentic selves and choose lives that feel like home – not the ones they were told to settle for. Her rare ability to blend evidence-based insight with deep emotional wisdom sets her apart as one of Australia’s most authoritative and in-demand voices in the personal development space. She meets people in their humanness with truth and tenderness, offering hope without bypassing reality, and compassion without conditions.

Beck is a regular guest across Australian TV and radio, and her work is often featured across major media outlets. She lives in the soul-fed hills of the Sunshine Coast with Bennett and their Great Dane, Dusty.

Connect with her on social media under @drrebeccaray.

30 Jun 2026
 

How to Stop Spiralling: Break the cycle of triggers, trauma responses and self-sabotage by Rebecca Ray ISBN 9781761561320